
I know you're going to get tired of hearing me say this kind of crap, but what the hey, it's my blog and where else can I say it.
The most important person in your life must believe in you. Who’s that person? Not your better half, not your children, not your mom or dad, and not your best friend. It’s YOU. Bet you saw that coming. If you don’t believe you can get that promotion, that new car, that special vacation or that publishing contract, then you won’t.
Yes. I’m a firm believer if you think you can do or get something, anything, and then you can. It might not come when you want it. It might not come exactly the way you want it, but it will happen as long as you believe in yourself and what you want. Yes. WANT. Not need. That is one of the neat things about being human. We can want. Animals need food and water to survive. To an animal, everything is need, not want.
Let me give you an example of what happened to me when I didn’t believe in ME. I was working for another company, and at the time, I enjoyed my job because I felt confident about what I was doing. Every so often I would work a couple hours over and during those times, one of the VPs had an occasional habit of stopping by and chatting with me and a co-worker. Then one day it was just the two of us, he asked me if I knew of anyone who would want my old boss’s job? My boss had left the company a few days earlier.
Stupid me, thinking there’s no way they would hire a woman for the job (the company was old school and this was like fifteen years ago), especially one that didn’t graduate from college, and I said, “No. I sure don’t.” Well, about two weeks later, the announcement was made. A woman was promoted from another department to be my boss. I nicely questioned the VP about his decision and he said, “Carla, I had hoped you were interested and when you said you didn’t know anyone, I figured you didn’t want the job.” Why he didn’t ask me straight out? I have no idea. Maybe it was his way of testing my drive to move up in the company. Whatever.
Needless to say, I kicked my butt for a long time for not having the guts to stand up and say I wanted it. Lesson learned. If opportunity knocks, ANSWER THE FREAKING DOOR! Better to find out they knocked on the wrong door than not to answer and lose out on that golden opportunity.